Post-Crit

archistudent:

walkinintomordor:

"As a jealous person, I’m interested in building love and trust with people that does not hinge on sexual exclusivity, because part of my jealousy, and maybe part of the jealously implied in the cultural drama repeatedly portrayed on TV of “The Other Woman,” “The Affair” and the heartcrushing trust-violating meaning placed on sex outside a relationship, is that desire always exceeds any container—and we all know that from experiencing our own desire. No matter how much we love and want and adore and are hot for our partners, we also experience desire outside that dyad, and the myth of romance (one person out there for each of us, find them, love them, buy things with them and you’ll be happy forever), which we’re all drilled with from birth ’til death, makes this knowledge terribly threatening. So the point, for me, becomes recognizing that commitment and love and interest in someone else’s well being does not necessarily include a deadening of all sexual desire for other people, or trying to unlearn the belief that it does. The point for me is to create relationships based on deeper and more real notions of trust. So that love becomes defined not by sexual exclusivity, but by actual respect, concern, commitment to act with kind intentions, accountability for our actions, and a desire for mutual growth."

Dean Spade :: An Excerpt from Poly Essay Take 2  (via heavymuffintop)

Saw Dean give a talk on trans* politics and got his book NORMAL LIFE but this is the best of his work I’ve read thus far!

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Hyperbole and a Half: Depression Part Two →

agentive:

So much truth. 

(tw: depression, suicide) 

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Metropolitan populations are significantly more likely than rural ones to suffer from mental illnesses such as depression and schizophrenia.

Among urban dwellers, social stress leads to hyperactivity in the amygdala and anterior cingulate cortex, brain regions that play an important role in equilibrating our emotions.

The pressures of city life can change brain physiology, thereby increasing the risk of emotional disorders.

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Researchers explore the risks urban living raises for developing emotional disorders.

Anaïs Nin had a cure, as did Thoreau. 

Also see the science of “social jet lag.”

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This resonates with me.

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"I don’t need a telescope to see that there’s hope and that makes me feel brave."

Owl City

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lambtime:

how to make a landscape base plan 101

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"In asking for help we are, actually, paying a compliment. We are suggesting to another that we trust them to help us during a time of great vulnerability. We do not expect solutions from them. We ask only that they be present, that they give us the temporary support we require while we find our own solutions.

A healthy ‘I need you,’ is an important expression of love."

from Leo Buscaglia’s “Born for Love” (via poonchka)

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"To lead people walk behind them."

Lao Tzu (via pfemd9)

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colchrishadfield:

Intensive agriculture in a forbidding place, southern Africa. Like terraforming.