college is catered towards the able bodied and able minded. school applauds people who can stay up all night, skip meals, and work endlessly. that kind of extreme contribution is expected. why are disabled people being squeezed out of academic institutions? why should I feel inferior because of some arbitrary and ridiculous standard?
This. This is why I’m always working against the architecture-culture - which is worst in university but persists in practice - which says the more hours in studio the better, the less you eat the better, the more you live on coffee and adrenaline the better, the more you sacrifice in order to push your health and sanity to the edge - or over the edge - the better, that makes you smarter, that makes you stronger, you should be proud of yourself for getting sucked into this cruel vortex, you should isolate from yourself from everything that isn’t architecture school, because taking care of yourself isn’t important, you can always bounce back.
What’s that? You didn’t bounce back? Weird. Why not? Huh. Maybe take some time off and come back when you can cope?
No. I can’t work or study that way. Not if I want to be healthy, not if I want to be sane. And my university is pretty great at accommodating me and making adjustments - but that’s what they are, adjustments, because I’m the exception. I’m the exception for needing to make sure I have time to eat properly and sleep properly and see other people and look after myself and because I have to be realistic about what I can achieve.
That’s wrong. That’s not the way it should be.
I have good, close friends who clawed their way through undergrad and didn’t go back because the school didn’t cater to them. Because it asked too much and it was unhealthy and the toll it took was too great and they felt they were not enough. And it breaks my heart because they are talented and sensitive and perceptive and full of insight and they’re the kind of people I wish were out there building changes into the world. Some of them are making their way back to architecture, slowly and on their own terms, and some of them aren’t - and that’s ok, it’s their choice - but the way they were forced out is shameful.
I’m only still going because I’ve had a ton of support and because I have the ability to navigate all the systems and bureaucracy necessary to ensure I’m treated somewhat equally. Not everyone can do that. And no one should have to.
I no longer need you to fuck me as hard
as I hate myself.
Make love to me
like you know I am better than the worst thing I ever did.
I’m new to this
but I have seen nearly every city from a rooftop without jumping.
I have realized
that the moon did not have to be full for us to love it.
We are not tragedies
stranded here beneath it.
Buddy Wakefield, We Were Emergencies (via theunquotables)
Members of Congress are living off food stamps for a week to protest Republican cuts. It’s a challenge for them, but GOP cuts would hurt millions of everyday Americans.
Why does this not have more publicity. This needs it!
Signal boosting this A) because it deserves to be seen by more people, and b) because I appreciate some members of Congress are actually willing to see what it’s like living on food stamps in order to make their point about how horrifying cutting food stamps would be.
News flash, regressives: people on food stamps do not load up on Snickers bars and filet mignon. They’re limited in what they can buy, and oftentimes, it’s not enough to get by on. Go on thinking these are entitlements that let minorities live lives of luxury, comfortable in the knowledge that you’ll never go hungry.
You privileged, elitist pricks.
Remember though that living on a minimal food budget when you have a fridge and freezer, a working microwave and hob and oven and no need to worry about how high your electricity and gas bills will be, when you have a full set of kitchen gear, when you have only one job and that gives you time in the evening to stop and make a meal, when you probably have family with similar, similarly secure jobs, when you don’t spend twelve or fourteen hours a day on your feet working in a cafe or a factory, when there are stores near to you which stock a full range of healthy produce, when you don’t have to make a long, time-consuming, tiring journey on public transport to get to them….
is very different to the reality for lots of people who rely on government subsidies to afford basic sustenance.
… So she did what was best for her kid, has ONE SINGLE PANIC ATTACK WHICH IS A THING THAT CAN HAPPEN TO ANYONE WHETHER THEY HAVE A MENTAL ILLNESS OR NOT and decide that they can literally violate her body in a horrific manner and take her kid away. But she’s the dangerous one.
Terribly sad. I hope this gets worked out in her benefit.
I can’t even imagine how terrifyingly awful that situation had to have been. Forcing a woman, against her will, to undergo sedation and then waking up in pain, without the fetus you’ve been carrying for 9 months? That’s beyond the pale. How much do the rights of an unborn fetus circumvent the rights of a full-grown adult? How much do we have to other the mentally ill, treating them (us) as less than human? She was literally treated like a breeding animal, with no cause of concern for her safety, mental health or well-being. Fuck. Fuck.
This is literally the stuff that horror movies are made of.
When K was relating this story to me, I couldn’t believe it until I read the article for myself. Have we really gotten to the point that a woman who, even just from the stress of being pregnant, has a panic attack can legally have her baby ripped out of her body and be thrown into a mental institution? Did we slip back into the 19th century, because I don’t recall any horse-drawn buggies going by outside.
This is why we need mental health reform. This is why we need women’s rights. This is why we need to treat fellow humans like fucking humans, not livestock to be cast aside when they seem a little “off.”
As someone who is pregnant and also struggling with mental illness, this story is going to give me nightmares for weeks. o_o
Sweet Jesus Christ what in the hell is going on this is unacceptable I just
I’m in no way suggesting that everything that happened in this case was right and proper (because it’s clearly not) but I will say there’s a ton of reductionist misinformation around it.
This does a pretty good job of explaining.
Again, I’m not saying that all these calls were right. It’s not ok that society lets people with illnesses end up in situations where they or their family are unable to take good care of their children, or that the loss of autonomy which comes from being sectioned is anything but worrying and often traumatising. This whole case is sad, and scary, and upsetting. But none of these decisions are taken lightly. Making it sound that way helps nobody.
An example of why I deeply love the practice that has mentored me for five years - this is from the recruitment page of their website. It also sets out their flexi-time policy and the hours employees are contracted to work (37 a week), and explains that they are willing to give paid study leave including tuition fees to staff pursuing post-grad qualifications.
That, friends, is how you do it.